- Determine his destination and the way he wants to lead his life.
- Become attuned to the thought patterns that are present when he loses focus on his work.
- Identify cognitive and emotional triggers that lead to distraction.
- Perceive binary choice, so as to establish and maintain clear priorities.
- Maintain focus on task completion by extending time of deliberation; utilize time most effectively and meet deadlines.
Jordan sees himself as “spontaneous”. He can respond to changing circumstances by shifting from one course of action to another rapidly—sometimes too rapidly. Jordan too often reacts to the most pressing impulse at the moment. Whether due to an internal state or an external stimulus, Jordan is moved to act, often with negative consequences in his personal and professional life.
- Learn the connection between thought and impulse.
- Enhanced awareness of specific triggers to impulsivity.
- Extend time of thoughtful deliberation
- Perceive the presence of choice and assess binary options
- Increased frustration tolerance.
- Develop proactive decision-making rather than reactive acting-out.
Self-awareness of how he thinks, not what he thinks; thoughts precede feelings; understand the nature of an impulse and its impact. 3T - Think Things Through; Identify Pivotal Choice Point and binary choices at the moment. Monitor non-impulsive responses and make them primary.
Jordan has not lost his spontaneous nature, he has learned to regulate his impulse to act and differentiate when being flexible is optimal and when staying on course is the way to go. Jordan is more deliberate and decisive. He can assess a situation on its merits rather than being swayed by inner reactivity. Overall he experiences greater control of his life.
- Determine his destination and visualize the peace he can have.
Attune to physical cues as they are happening in real time.
- Enhance the ability to differentiate degrees of arousal.
- Extend time of deliberation.
Identify the peaceful choice; capture the moment of decision.
- Increased capacity for delayed response.
- Normative self-regulation of anger; regret and guilt replaced by confidence and calm.
Self-awareness of how he thinks, not what he thinks; attentive to physical experience and the mind/body link. Understand the nature of an impulse and the impact it has on functioning. Think Things Through; Identify Pivotal Choice Point and optimal choices in the moment.
Make mindful choices to establish a new default thought process when stimulated to anger; constant awareness of constantly choosing and creating his own positive reality.
Whitney is just as passionate as always, only he directs the focus of his passion rather being controlled by it. Fewer frustrations or irritants evoke an angry sensation and he can readily recognize what deserves attention and what does not. Whitney’s friends and co-workers see a real change in his demeanor and behavior. He is unencumbered by inner tension and exudes well-being and self-assurance.
- Configure his life destination, how he would wish to live from this moment on.
- Visualize living well.
- Recognize the unique patterns of his thinking and how they direct feelings and actions.
- Become attuned to the mind/body link and how it affects his health and outlook.
- Perceive choice where he never saw it before.
- Follow through on possibilities for renewed enthusiasm and satisfaction.
- Determining their destination to be the primacy of their relationship and renewed trust.
- Enhanced awareness of one’s own thinking patterns that can lead to misinterpretation of partner’s actions.
- Recognition of the impact of own behavior on interactions.
- Utilization of choice to improve empathic communication.
- Reduce conflict and increase satisfaction.
- Improve awareness of caring from the other.
Destination precedes the journey; learn how to focus on the primary goal and not get distracted by secondary goals and practice thoughtful deliberation. Recognition that every thought, feeling, and action involves choice; constant awareness of constantly choosing and all choices are binary and under one’s own control. Learning the choice to approach – Leaning In – in communication and intimacy.
Brandi and James feel renewed in their most important endeavor—their relationship. They have learned how to see, hear, and respond without defensiveness or impulsivity. They are attuned to all of their ways of communicating and expressing need. By taking ownership of their personal behavior they have reduced the potential for conflict. They like being together so much more.
- Identify his destination and visualize life without guilt, shame and escape with sustained sobriety.
- Achieve awareness of own thought patterns and the connection between thoughts, feelings, and actions.
- Make time a living dimension and be focused in the present.
- Develop awareness of choice.
- Recognize alternatives to acting on a craving; master the moment of choice.
- Establish consistent wellness daily routines to improve oxygenation and activate internal calm.
- Develop positive social network; become self-directed.
Destination takes precedence over the journey; self-awareness of how he thinks, not what he thinks; attentive to physical experience and the mind/body link and incorporating wellness habits; understand the nature of an impulse and how to moderate the impact it has on functioning. Identify Pivotal Choice Point and optimal choices in the moment; maintain focus on primary goal; avoid tunnel vision effect (TVE) and internalize success in mastery over cravings.
Bill has been sober for almost a year – longer than any previous period of sobriety. His work life and social world are more stable and secure. He has experienced intense cravings at times, but he has utilized medically-assisted treatment when necessary. In general, he has a more positive sense of self and his future. He is not driven by shame and failure.